What to Do When Someone Gives You a Gift You Hate
You tear off the wrapping paper, and your stomach drops. It is a ceramic rooster. Or a self-help book you did not ask for. Or a shirt two sizes too small in a color that does not exist in nature. Now you have to act grateful in front of the person who spent money on it.
In the Moment: Be Gracious
Thank them sincerely for thinking of you. Focus on the gesture, not the object. "That is so nice of you, thank you" works every time without requiring you to lie about loving the actual item.
After the Event: Decide What to Do With It
You have four options:
- Return it. If there is a receipt or gift receipt, exchange it for something you want. No guilt required.
- Regift it. If it is a perfectly good item that just is not for you, someone else might love it. Just make sure it never goes back to the original giver.
- Donate it. Shelters, thrift stores, and community centers are always accepting gently used items.
- Keep it in the closet. Sometimes you just have to ride it out, especially with gifts from close family who visit often. Put it out when they come over.
How to Prevent It Next Time
This is the real solution. The next time someone asks what you want, have an answer. Better yet, have a link. A wishlist eliminates the guesswork entirely. The giver gets the satisfaction of knowing you love it, and you do not end up with another ceramic rooster.
Create your wishlist on Send Me Your Gifts and share it before your next birthday or holiday. It is the kindest thing you can do for the people who shop for you.
